Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Been there, done that...

OMG, Christine. I have been through something like this before, too.

I loved my SIL but not hubby's brother...he was arrogant & selfish (a OBGYN & thought he knew everything). Also, hubby's dad was re-married to someone that none of us liked. Hubby was never really close to his dad or brother. BUT.....I insisted they were family and we needed to go visit. Things usually did not go too well and I was always upset. If I had known what I know now I would have just let things ride. If hubby didn't care and they were his family then why did I feel like I had to be involved??? It was causing me major stress !!! BTW, hubby's dad & brother are now both deceased.

Anyway, I think you made the effort and now just let what happens happen. Let her make the next move. If you want contact with your nephew, maybe you could send him greeting cards with pictures, etc.

Take it from someone who has been there....it's not up to you to maintain these relationships.

Barbie

PS: My SIL is now remarried to a really neat guy and we are still very good friends! After his dad's death we have never seen his step-MIL again!

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