Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Random Question about relationships

Hey Ashley,

That's a good question. I myself used to be in the serial monogomist category. From the middle of grade 10 until the end of my first year in college, the longest I went without being in a serious relationship was probably a couple of months. Overall it was great. I enjoy being in a relationship, and I think overall I'm happier and more succesful when I have a girlfriend. I not only have somebody elses support, but I also have someone that I can focus energy and attention on. As well, I generally feel more motivated in all aspects of life and feel more optimistic.

However, the problem I found with that is that each relationship wouldn't be totally seperate. Characteristics from one girlfriend would carry over to another.

After my last really serious relationship ended, I made a bit of conscious effort to stay single for a while, plus, I was busy with school so I was content with that. It was quite hard, cause I was used to always having a girlfriend, but I am glad I was single for a while. I was able to figure out a lot about myself. Things I like, things I don't and what I'm looking for in a potential wife. Unfortunately, now I'm in a situation where I'm not able to meet and get to know anybody that even remotely has what I am looking for. (This town sucks!!!

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As to answer your question about settling down. That's a tough one. I do know lots of guys who don't really ever want to get married, but I also know a lot who are just waiting for the right girl to come along and are totally ready to settle down. I fall into the latter group, however, commitment can be scary. It's one of those things that you just know and it's not something that can be forced. I've notived, that if there's at all any pressure to settle down, then it makes the other person even less inclined to want to. Kinda weird.

What are your thoughts? What criteria do you have for deciding if a guy is worth it for you to commit?

Interesting post,
Jamie

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