I SOOOOOO agree with you Emmasmom.....if anything is HIS idea he's more than happy to do it. But, if I suggest or ask for any help he won't do it or huffs and puffs the whole time he is helping me. One time we were having family out for my birthday luncheon and before everyone got there he actually asked me what he could help with. When I said "would you please slice the rolls" he said "no". So then I said "OK...would you put the salsa in a dish?" He said "No...it's fine in the jar." So I said "Why did you ask what you could help with if you aren't going to do what I need help with?!" He just shrugged his shoulders and smiled. So now when he asks "Is there anything I can do?" I just say "no". Oh...and I have tried answering his request for help like he does when I ask....he'll say "could you help me with this?" I tried saying "no" a few times and he gets all pissed off. I wanted to say "hurts when the shoe is on the other foot...doesn't it?" But, I didn't say anything...I just smiled and helped him.