I wouldn't feel sorry for him either. You have feelings also and they matter and are imporant. DON"T FORGET THAT! Treat them as they treat you. Don't live life unhappy find the happiness you deserve. My hubby doesn't like to be told what to do so when I ask for the trash to be taken out that day he huff and puffs also cause that isn't the day he wants to do it I guess. My dh has changed since we got married to but that bad. I know I have to but I do try and sometimes I feel like I am the only one trying.... Keep your distance and eat healthy and take care of yourself and I hope it all works out for the best. You deserve it. (hugsxxxxxxx) emmasmom Ibs-c gas