Re: Advice about children (long post)!!
08/16/06 05:53 PM
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hohoyumyum
Reged: 05/28/03
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Loc: SacTown, CA
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You and your husband are the only ones who can make this decision. You need to follow your heart. If you're not ready, you're not ready.
My parents were horrible. Nasty, abusive, and drunk. For a long time I thought that was the way things were supposed to be and so I didnt want any children of my own. Now, though, I know that just because you're parents make a decision doesn't mean that you have to make the same one. And I can't wait until my husband and I are able to start a family.
As for providing a life for your children that they deserve; well, there really aren't that many basic things children will need from you. A safe home, love, and your time. Of course there are all of the other things that naturally go along with having children but what they need most from you is your love and your attention. Are you ready to give them that? If you're not, it's okay. Think about the changes that will happen in your life. Good and bad. I would say, "If you're not sure, wait a little longer." But that's just me.
Children are precious and, frankly, I think there really isn't any point to anything without them. But I know that parenthood isn't for everyone. And that's alright.
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