I'm sure you are going to get many different responses and honestly, mine might just be contreversal.. but here is my thoughts..
My fiance and I have no interest in having children what so ever. Right now he hates kids and to me, the best thing about children is giving them back to the parent when they start screaming thier fool heads off.
Children will truely impact your life, both your free time and your pocket book. This isn't like a pet that grows up withing a couple years and don't need you so much anymore. This is a life time commitment. You will have this child to take care of for at least 16 years or more. True most people who have had children love them more than life itself but there are a few where it ruined thier marriage and thier lives.. Everyone is different.
Also think about it this way, the more prepared you are the better. I do mean finacially. Also you have to know that you are making this decison for the right reasons. I feel that just because a person can have a kid, doesn't mean they should. Too many people have tried to get pregnant just to save thier relationship, or to simply get more money from the gov. I'm not saying that you would but you know what I mean... I would suggest watching two types of tv show just so as you can see other families with thier brand new babies.. *birth stories* or if you want the more horror story terrible twos from hell... Nanny 911 or supernanny...
I also personally feel that there are zero benefits to your body. True you would have larger breasts (but personally that would be a bad thing) it will completly screw up everything in your body especially if something horrible happens (I truely hope that if you do decide that children are the right choice that this doesn't happen to you) but a friend of mine cannot carry to term she has had three almost life threatening issues.
Also again personally, if I were to change my mind and decide I wanted a baby, I would adopt. There are so many children in the world that do not have homes and I would feel guilty to bring in another to an over populated world.. But again, these are just my thoughts.. (Someone had to advocate for the people who don't want children... even if my views may seem harsh)
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