I am so glad that you went for a second opinion. I had a feeling that she was going to have a better bedside manner than your other Rheumy doc. Shame on him for not treating you aggressivly enough.
I know she didn't give you great news but you already knew you were feeling terrible. I know it must be wonderful to have a doctor who actually believes everything you are experiencing and is so willing to help you get the RA under control. You have been through so much and now there seems to be a light at the end of the tunnel.