Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Need some advice-personal (Sorry for the long post)

Hello everyone, I have just been recently diagnosed with IBS, and am very grateful. Lately I have been having headaches and am so nauseated, but I am hungry. This is not the real problem, just a quick history..The problem I am actually having is very personal and it involves my marriage.
I consider myself a pretty nice person, but I have been having marital problems from day 1, and I have really gained some independence in my life and have realized how unhappy I am in my marriage. When I was younger, we didn't talk about how we felt, so I have a very big problem communicating to my spouse about things (and he does know about my very troubling past). Well, I wasn't too happy about some things and wanted to go to marriage counseling, I wont' go into the specifics of what happened, but the 1st time I asked, he just brushed me off and said that things were fine�well, maybe for him, but not for me. I decided that after about 3 weeks I was going to sit down with him again and talk to him about going to counseling. We got into an argument and he told me that he wouldn't go to counseling. I told him that if he wasn't' going to go with me, I was going to go by myself so I could learn how to communicate better with him and have a better marriage. He told me that I was never happy, and that hurt my feelings. I have tried so hard to be happy, but I am not. Then when I told him that I was going to go by myself to counseling, he told me that I was just being selfish and that I was always running to everyone else w/ our problems instead of just dealing with them. That REALLY hurt�the whole stupid reason that I want to go to counseling is so we can work thru our problems, with out it, I am just going to be unhappy�.And the really sad thing about it all is that he has no idea that anything is even wrong, so it's that much harder for me to talk to him about it, because then he tells me that I am always looking for something to be wrong. After so long you start o wonder about yourself and what is wrong with you. I want to go talk to someone about it to see what is wrong with me, but I a scared to tell him that I am going anyways, because he will just get mad and say rude things to me. I am sorry to pore my heart out to people I don't know, but I am so tore up inside, and I am sure this is what is making me sick. I just need an outside opinion that can really look at the situation clearly�can anyone help me???

Thanks so much!

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