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06/06/06 05:12 PM
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Stephie
Reged: 03/10/04
Posts: 2696
Loc: Vancouver, Canada
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Hi Shannon,
I am so sorry that you are feeling so badly, but I agree with Natalie - you don't have anything to feel sorry about or guilty for. If his mother is someone that you confide in, than you've done nothing out of the ordinary. And, if like you said, they were just ideas that you had about why he has been acting this way than I can't see him having any retaliation to the things you said. In fact, when he threw all that at you, I would have loved for you to say, "Okay, well, if it isn't those things than you tell me *what* you are that has turned you into such a <suchandsuch> (insert your own words there). These are things that were suggested to me because you haven't been able to talk to me, so I am left to try and figure out *on my own* what happened to my daughter's Dad." If he doesn't want you to talk to him about things, fine. But he can't tell you that you can't talk to other people, no matter who that person is. Furthermore, you could have also pointed out that his behaviour is *not normal* and that you are concerned about him. And who better to approach about someone you are concerned about than their mother?
To be honest with you, I think he knew he could make you feel bad about this and he is manipulating you into apologising and feeling like you are in the wrong. It is totally unbelieveable that he has managed to spin it the way he has, and the only thing I would apologise for is to *yourself* for letting him make you feel the way he has.
Oh, and having expressed concerns about a problem that he might have to a family member can't affect anything in a court room, I am almost 100% positive. You haven't done anything wrong.
I know that you still wanted things to work out, but it's his behaviour that has sealed the fate of your relationship and the sooner you are rid of him, the better.
I hope that you can sort out some way to have him *not* staying with you again after he stays with his mother, he does not deserve to be in your house so that he can play little games and try to hurt you.
**hugs** Steph
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