I will certainly see a lawyer. The thing that i can't state enough is that even if he sold off all his stuff, as it is right now he wouldn't be able to afford any child support. he has a restaurant loan, and he'd lose it, and without it he'd have no inome, and without an income he couldn't possibly afford payments. See the conundrum? He's in MAJOR overdraft. that's why we're living together till the fall, so he can get out of overdraft at least a bit, and I can save up or get out of some debt!!
Plus right now I have $100 a month in med. bills that are covered under him, not me, and that won't change till the fall at least. Sigh. I'm very stuck. Not that I'm expecting it to work out, for sure. I will be on the lawyer thing this week sometime.
I've found a counsellor (well, a church marriage counsellor) and am waiting for her to call me back. She's supposely faster than waiting for a pastor to get over the flu.