I agree with Beth. He will more than likely need to make equalization payments/alimony, and yes he may have to sell the restaurant to do that...but that's tough cookies for him because he has brought this upon himself. With a settlement, you will probably be able to pay the rent or mortgage and other bills. Please, please, please see a lawyer as soon as possible to protect you and your daughter's interests. I know you want to keep things very amicable, but that might leave you with very little in the long run.