Sweetheart, the fact that he said it's none of your business is a defensive response. It makes him sound guilty. Furthermore, I think IMHO that it is absolutely your business. You are still his wife and you have every right to know what is going on. That might make him angry though. Lastly, I think he should absolutely get counselling - even alone and not necessarily with you. It's the very least he can do for you and Kayleigh. If there is another woman, a counselor can tell him that affairs usually exist in a bubble and are not based on reality. It's based on infatuation and fantasy. Relationships that start as affairs rarely work out because once they get into reality of life and work and kids, they discover it wasn't as great as they thought. A counselor would at least help him consider things before he does something life altering and potentially stupid. You are a beautiful, wonderful person inside and out and I hope to goodness he realizes that before it's too late. Love and hugs, A.
-------------------- Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3.