Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: This is weird.... (friendship-related)

I meant to respond to your old thread and tell you I'm in a similar boat (tho not exactly the same). I had a very best friend Sarah from 9th grade through college. We had our ups and downs but overall we were extremely close. She even lived with my family for 6 months when we were 16/17, we travelled to Europe together twice, etc. We had a huge falling out right before I started law school. I won't get into it but basically she always had this guardian angel complex about me, always thought she had to protect me, even though I have 2 brothers and 8 cousins who already do that enough to drive me nuts. Anyway she said a few things that I know were out of concern but that really crossed the line. I always felt like she didn't see me as a peer or as someone capable of making her own decisions. Well, we had a huge blowup and never reconciled. We both made a couple half-assed efforts to get in touch with the other, but each time the person on the receiving end rebuffed. I'm as guilty of that as she was. So, now 3 years later I'm about to finish law school and have had no contact with her. Last week when I was home at my parents' house my mom showed me her WEDDING ANNOUNCEMENT in the paper. Turns out she was married in October to a guy she'd just started dating when she and I fell apart. At first I was just happy for her, but then it started eating away at me. I was so sad that I'd missed out on the "I'm engaged" phone call, that I didn't get to throw her bachelorette party, that I missed her bridal shower, and that her older sister with whom she did not get along was her maid of honor. I should have been there. I am so sad over all of it. I looked up her husband in the town where the paper said they were living and last week I sent a card. All it said was that I saw the annoucnement, that she looked beautiful, and that I hoped she was happy. I mentioned that seeing that in the paper made me realize how many good things we'd missed out on in each other's lives. I said I hoped she and her husband were very happy and that I wished them the best. I've had a stomach ache since I dropped it in the mailbox on Tuesday. We'll see if she writes back. My return address was on the envelope but I didn't ask her to write back or anything. So, I hope you are glad that you and your friend had simultaneous impulses to get back in touch. Losing a friend hurts a lot!

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Amanda

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