I'm posting this here because I know if I ask any of my girlfriends or family, their responses are not going to be as objective.
My boyfriend and I broke up in January of this year and it was a very amicable breakup. We are absolutely still as love with one another as ever. It tears me up because we are so great together. The main reason we split is because we were keeping up a long distance relationship in two states. He absolutely refused to move here and I just feel it would be way too stressful at this point in my life to move there. I am about to graduate law school in CA. I've invested about $100k in my education and three years of grueling studying. I am involved heavily in studying CA criminal prosecution and really really want to continue to do so.
So the problem for me lies in that moving to another state (AZ in this case) makes it hard. I would have to give up all my headway here, take the CA bar, then move, take the AZ bar and basically not be able to practice law for another year and a half.
So why not do it and just move there? Well, the ex doesn't have a stable career. He's still figuring out what to do with his life, lives with his buddies and has really no sense of responsibility. I got really tired of being the "heavy" in the relationship always feeling like I was the adult and he was the teenager. But besides all that...we were perfect.
I know that I am probably better off, but we talked tonight and I just cried and cried. I just can't feel better. I still love him tremendously. I worry that I am being too selfish, that I am putting my career ahead of him? I just wonder if I did the right thing.
Thanks if you managed to stick out reading this whole thing
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Did I do the right thing? (long rant..sorry)
