I'm so sorry, Stephie. It's so hard when things are going rough. I totally understand - hubby and I are in a rough patch right now ourselves. It is NOT easy. While neither of us are going anywhere, working through things is extremely difficult. I would say that if you want to have any shot at working things through, is to work on your communication. It is so key. I would make the time and set aside the money for a counsellor. A non-biased third party can be so helpful. I think that Adrian is not being honest with you. I don't think your illness has a darn thing to do with this. I think he's just using it as an excuse. Yes, my husband sometimes feels frustrated with my IBS, but he certanly doesn't make me feel guilty about it. You and Adrian really need to open up to each other. One technique that hubby and I find really helpful is taking turns talking. I would speak my mind and he would agree only to listen and not respond. That way, I could tell him the complete truth without worrying what he's going to say about it. Then once everything is in the open, you can discuss options and comprimises. Relationships are HARD work. I hope that you can find a way to be happy - either with Adrian or without. NEVER feel like you're a burden here. We all love you and are here for you. Sending you tons of hugs, Alicia.
-------------------- Formerly HanSolo. IBS, OCD, Bipolar, PTSD times 3.
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