Reged: 06/01/04
Posts: 7013
Loc: Maine (IBS-A stable since July '05!)
I guess that the issues are arising more from his inability to adequately deal with the situation, rather than anything YOU personally are doing wrong.
I couldn't have said it better myself. Steph, please don't blame yourself for this. You didn't choose to be sick. I'm not saying this is all Adrian's fault, but you *can't* blame yourself for something that's out of your control.
And by the way, I think you were right to push him until he finally talked... I don't think you were "asking for it" in any way... if he was obviously not happy, then you have every right to know why.
This probably isn't what you want to hear, but sometimes things just aren't meant to be... sometimes the timing is just wrong. He's not mature enough to handle your illness right now. It happens. Adam and I had to disappear from each other's lives for 5 years before we could get back together and make it work. Not saying that that's the answer either, but... you never know.
I agree that counseling - for you alone, and for the two of you together, if possible - would be ideal. I know that here, there's community mental health resources available for people who don't have insurance or who otherwise can't pay for a therapist. Maybe there's something like that up there?
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I agree...
