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Hi Amanda,

First off, I'm sorry that you had to go through a break-up. Even if they go well, it's never an easy thing to go through so I hope you are feeling alright. I do understand where you are coming from, I can't imagine doing the long distance thing for so long.

As for the new dating, I think a lot of people fall into that pattern of getting out of one relationship and then all of a sudden finding themselves in another serious relationship. I know what you mean about not wanting to just end up with this one, and wanting to at least go on some other dates -- so I say that's exactly what you do!

I'm not a big advice expert, but I think that you don't have to mention right away to new guys that you are just out of a relationship unless you feel like you want to share that. Although, I guess if you want a guy to get the idea that you are not looking to get 'locked in' (hm, maybe use other wording, hee hee) then you have to make him aware of that so he doesn't get the wrong idea.
I think it is a good idea to be casual for a while.. and probably one way to do that is not to get really deep into past relationship talks and how many kids you are looking to have and all that, 'cause I find that stuff to be kinda attaching, you know?
I think that if you find a guy that you really, really like though that it is better to pursue it in case it is something great than to pull away 'just in case' kinda thing.

Anywho, good luck with your new single life! Keep us updated!

Cheers!
--Steph

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