Kelly,
As you might remember, my MIL died of pancreatic cancer three years ago. She also deteriorated rapidly after getting an infection. The images of her on her deathbed have stayed with me, though thankfully not as vividly as in the beginning.
My MIL was very important to me, but she wasn't my mom. Despite that, I can see the ripple effects of losing her all over my life: my IBS, increased anxiety, but also positive things like a greater willingness to admit my own vulnerability.
I think my point is that to lose your mom is devastating at any age. To lose her the way you did is particularly tough. It will always hurt, but through therapy, you might find a little more peace about it. And like Ashley said, grief is different for everyone. If you feel there's stuff to work through still, then there probably is.
Big hugs,
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Christine
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