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I was raised in an abusive home (verbal, emotional) and thereby grew up not knowing that I could stand up for myself, say "no" to a guy...the short version is that I had little or no self esteem.

I found myself in a volatile relationship...some of the fights you write about with Adrian could have been written by me. I lived in Texas where if you weren't engaged or married by the time you graduated college you were considered an old maid.

When this guy left me I thought my life was over and considered ending my life...thinking that I could not live without him and thinking that I would never fall in love or get married.

The truth is, I was married within 9 months to my husband of almost twenty years (THAT story is a post all by itself!) and I am living the American dream. I have 2.2 children...2 dogs...and so forth and I couldn't be happier. God is doing magnificent things in my life and I am so grateful.

I say all of this to say that you CAN live without Adrian if he leaves...DO NOT put your self worth into whether he stays or not. You are a lovely girl with a very sweet personality.

You and Adrian have been through much as of late and I pray that God blesses you with peace in your life. The peace may be with or without Adrian but you will be OK.

I worry about posting this as I don't want to be a naysayer but my intent is to let you know that you are worthy of the very best...you deserve peace...you deserve a man that treats you like a queen...you can be a complete person without a man. Hugs to you Stephie....I am praying for peace in your life.

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Have a blessed day!...Rachel
stable and sooooooo thankful!
I have IBS but it doesn't have me!

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