I will post it here incase anyone else wants to know the answer.
I had a sleep study done at a Sleep Clinic where I was hooked up to a million electrode to monitor my every move, breath, heart beat, muscle twitch, etc. They also watched me from a camera above the bed. I slept there all night while they monotiored me and watched my results come in through the various monitors. It wasn't fun but was painless.
I got the results back and the study indicated that I don't reach stages 3 and 4 of deep sleep so that it why I a NEVER refreshed when waking up. I saty in stage 2 (light sleep) and am mostly in REM sleep wichi is dream sleep and not restortaive/refreshing sleep.
So I met with a neurologist to go over my results. He told me it wasn't pyschological as I am already on an anti-depressant and it wasn't medical. He said there must have been a trama at birth or that when my cells came together when I was being devloped, something went a tad wrong and that part didn't develop properly.
The MRI that I had revealed nothing to answer any quetions about how to help my insomnia. I was told sleep aids wouldn't work (and they don't). So I'm out of luck.
But tell your hubbie to see the doctor and request an overnight sleep study. He could have sleep apnea, restless leg syndrome or just plain olf insomnia. It CAN be treated in most circumstances.