Irritable Bowel Syndrome Message Boards | Re: Don't worry about being a downer, Michele

I agree with Beth. Don't be a stranger because you feel like you don't have anything positive to say. We want to hear from you regardless. I've missed your posts lately!

The B&B sounds like a terrific idea to me too. (Can I tag along?) I know how you feel about sex being unromantic when you are required to do it at certain times. It can take the enjoyment out of it!

Hang in there, and hopefully you won't have to continue this rigorous schedule much longer. And if you do decide you've had enough of the planning, waiting, and doctor's appointments, you know you could always apply to adopt a baby.

That's not giving up on getting pregnant. Maybe that would take the strain off of your relationship and give you both something fun to look forward to. Just think, you'd be parents, and you'd get to decorate a nursery and love that little baby ---just the same. And then maybe later, you would get pregnant. That's what happened to my good friend. She tried for years to get pregnant and couldn't, adopted 2 beautiful children (a girl and a boy!) and then she found herself pregnant ----TWICE. So now they have 4 children, and she couldn't be happier!

If the ultimate goal is to be a MOMMY, which I know you want so desperately, then maybe there's a baby out there for you, one that someone cannot raise because of their circumstances. I say find yourself an attorney that handles adoptions and when he gives you a call that there's a baby for you----and you hold it in your arms---you will be IN LOVE, and won't care where the baby came from.

I hope I'm not stepping on toes by saying this. But my sister-in-law has tried for years to get pregnant and now she regrets not adopting. I think being childless hit her like a brick when she turned 40 recently. She would like to adopt now, but her husband refuses, saying they are too old (and set in their ways) to add a baby to the family now. When I think about all she and her husband have missed by not being parents, it breaks my heart. What difference would it have made where the baby came from? If they had just gotten a baby years ago, they would have a family now. Instead, it's still just the two of them. They buy all kinds of material things---a boat, a new house, a new Jaguar, expensive vacations, but they're still not happy.

Sorry, I didn't intend to lecture you on this, but I've just seen adoptions give so many people so much JOY. We met a couple recently who adopted two girls from a Russian orphanage (they're sisters) and they are so precious! This couple already had 2 boys (of their own), and the girls have really completed this family.

Good luck to you! And hope you have a great trip.

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