Sorry this is so long!
So here's my question, my husband and I are trying to decide when to have our first baby. This is complicated because I'm working on my PhD. It would be really frowned upon to have the baby while I was working on my dissertation (starting summer of 2006), even though I won't have an actual job (except writing my 300 page book) and it's about the most flexible I can imagine my life being for years. If I did get pregnant I know my advisor would be mad.
I could wait until I finish the dissertation, but then I will be on the job market. I need to be ready and available for any job that might open. When I get that job I need to focus on teaching and publishing to get tenure. Having babies during that time would also be STRONGLY frowned upon, and lower my chances of getting tenure by over 30%.
Now, let me say that all I want to do in the world is teach undergraduates in a college setting, and I've been in college for eight years now working towards that aim.
On the other hand, my husband and I have been together for nearly eight years as well, we have a nice house, and he makes more than enough money for us to have the baby and be comfortable.
Because of this I'm really conflicted. I can see myself just working and working and working and then I'll wake up one day and it will be too late for kids. I know we're ready now if I had a real job with maternity leave, etc, but I don't. I've got a while to think about this... I won't even be finished with course work for another year...
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