Sage-Sage - Some advice for you
01/25/05 02:04 PM
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Tina,
You may not like this one bit, but I felt the need to respond on Shell's behalf because she's a bit modest about some of her victories.
While that may be perfect advice for some normal couples, Shane and Shell are different. Shell has been through some tough times before and if it had been me that went through some of those things, I'd probably be in a looney bin somewhere.
I'm not sure if you were here when Shell shared her heoric story about being the victim of a serious stabbing and robbery when she worked at Burger King. The robber stabbed her over 20 times (I've seen the scars!).
You can read about her story here: web page
What amazes me is that she came out of it with a positive attitude. They both have gone through a lot, which is private and personal to them and those they chose to share it with. I don't blame Shell for missing Shane because I know that if I had been through that, met someone who made me feel safe and loved, and he had to go away for almost 2 months - I'd be sad, nervous, and scared all at once!
It also doesn't help that the first time Shell has to sleep alone in her apartment by herself with her hubby over 500 miles away is for almost 2 months!
There's a difference in your husband or signifigant other being away during the day and sleeping in an empty bed at night while they are over 500 miles away. If I were Shell and had been through all she had been through, I'd probably lock myself in my apartment and refuse to come out.
Sometimes a person just needs hugs and sympathy (i.e. scratched cars) when they chose to vent on the boards. Look at all of us who whine when we know we eat something we know we're not supposed to. That's what is so great about the boards. 
I know you ment well with your advice, but please remember there is always a second viewpoint from where you are standing.
I want you to think about all this and please don't hate my advice. I am saying it because I want you to be able to help others be happy.
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- Jennifer
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