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Shell,

You won't like this one bit, but I have learned that women need to be independant and make their own fun while their hubbies/BF's are away. You can't rely on him for all your entertainment and fun. No, I don't rely on him too much, I just miss him...and wanted to be together on Valentine's.

It hurts me to see you so miserable without him. You can be on your own and have your own fun and happiness. I do have my own.... I laugh and joke around all day......I have a very busy life. I've just had a streak of bad luck

My BF works every second weekend and at first I used to get very bored having to fill up a full weekend by myself. I realized that I'd drive myself crazy if I let it. So I started making plans with friends and taking yoga and art classes. I joined a gym and used an afternoon to amek a new recipe of of my crazy vegetarian cookbook collection every second Sunday. Now I LIKE...LOVE... my time to myself. And I do have clingy tendencies. Oh, I read ya.... I'm at the gym 6 days a week...I take classes including Yogo on 5 of those days. I have projects around the house etc.....

You can't forget your friends when you're married as you need time away from your partner too. It's what makes you a healthy independant person.

I don't demand all his time and he let's me do what I want on my time. I used to go to Montreal every couple of months for the whole weekend to party with my best friend that lived there. He let me go and NEVER got jealous or asked me to stay home. You need to give people room to grow and breathe.

I want you to think about all this as I think you rely on him too much! No, really I don't.... and he is just as frustrated with being away as I am....it is one thing if it was just a week or even two...but by time this is all said and done it will have been six.

Please don't hate my advice. I am saying it because I want you to be happy. No, not at all... REALLY I AM A VERY HAPPY PERSON... I'm just able to vent here.... just like minutes ago I made a new post to share some GOOD NEWS..... I'm not a negative needy person AT ALL.

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