I haven't been there but I have a very definite line of advice....GET OUT OF THERE ASAP!
Staying with your friend seems like a great idea, she will have the furniture etc. Personally I would borrow a month's rent, give it to him and leave without notice. Move your stuff sometime that you know he won't be in. The last thing you need is him guilt-tripping you. His financial situation is no longer your concern.
I agree with the others that verbal abuse is terrible. My Dad belittles my Mum a lot and doesn't give any value to her point of view and it just shreds her confidence.
Get out and make a new start, we will all be here for you.