Heather, I know how depressing and frustrating living with a chronic problem like IBS can be. Im recently diagnosed with IBS and have been on the diet for 3 weeks--but I have had IBS much longer. I also have migraines which have left me laying in bed while my husband and four kids fend for themselves. I think the worst is when I can hear them all laughing from the other room--I just start feeling sorry for myself. It is true that when someone in a family has a medical condition, it does effect the whole family--my youngest is five and the first week I was trying the diet he got up in the middle of the night crying becasue he wanted me to eat the same as he does. I think food is just a symbol of get togethers and celebrations but it really isnt about the food--its about the people and you havent lost that part. I have realized that eventhough IBS is a lifelong condition--it can be managed and each of us can have the best quality of life we can with our families--I also try to take advantage of the "good days". Unfortunately I dont have any answers, just know that I and lots of others have been where you are. Take the time to take care of yourself. maybe be adventurous and try some of the recipes in Heather's books or on this site--the few I have treid so far have been great (everyone in my family loved the apple spice bread--they didnt even know it had soymilk in it). Stick with this diet--Im starting to have more good days then not and Im getting used to what is ok for me to have and what will hurt me (and my family) in the long run. Take care Missy