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unfortunately, i don't understand. i mean, intellectually i understand what you've said, but i can't put myself in your shoes because i haven't "been there."

i am not sure why you can't tell your dad, but i think it's probably getting to be time that you did so you can clear this misunderstanding up. i mean, can you tell him?

i have been known on many occasions to give people something to read, especially if i think they are going to be disbelieving or volatile about it. Heather's books (or copies from them or this site) would be an excellent place to start, of course.

in fact, if you feel like it would work (again, not knowing your situation exactly) you could have him read something and put a little note at the end (or tuck it in the book) that explains why you're embarrassed or feeling awkward about talking to him about it.

sometimes it helps to say what you need to say exactly the way you want/need to by writing it down or giving something someone else has written. and it also helps the other person have some time to "take it in" and think about his (or her) feelings about it and how they intend to respond.

hope this helps...

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