Me too Jasperlovel. I've finally decided to just get past the embarrassment and tell them I have a digestive disorder and can't eat lots of foods - for meats I can eat plain chicken or plain red meat (I know red meat is on the no no list but it doesn't bother me) Sometimes I bring a potato to throw in their microwave just in case. (I can also manage a low amount of mayo on it with seasonings). And now since being here I've found a few easy to buy desserts to bring along so I don't have to sulk while they eat their dairy laden desserts. I will bring either my Tofutti Cutie ice cream sandwiches or my mango sorbet. It's easier to tell a friend beforehand than to get there and be faced with cheese covered greasy mexican food or some other greasy delight. Where I have the worst times still is in large groups at restaurants where I really dont know everyone in the group and there is NOTHING on the menu that sounds safe. It embarrasses me to ask the waitress or waiter in front of everyone all these questions. Seems like everyone stops talking and just looks at me with the 'eye rollin' action. Then when you get waitresses that don't know what dairy means or just "guesses" and says, no, that makes me nervous. I've had to get up right in the middle of the meal with cramps and tell my husband we have to go right NOW!