Just to say that you might find it useful to take the flax seeds before going to bed ~ as well as in the morning ~ this gives the colon something to work with overnight! You may already do this but I've forgotten!
I think it's great that you told your family what's going on for you ~ they need to know so they can offer you all the support they can. Also I'm sure you offer your little girl much more than you realise!
Magnesium is a real goodie to take, and calcium citrate's probably the best form of calcium as it's water soluble, and so the body doesn't accumulate what it can't use.
Hope the acupuncture starts to help you really soon! It will also help with gyn problems.
I do agree with your mum that if you have had previous gyn problems then you should definately also go back to see your gyn doctor. It's easy to confuse abdomen problems as the bowel and uterus are so close to each other (or so a doctor once told me!)
I don't know anything about Chinese herbs, but there are others on this board do know about them.
Whatever ~ pain relief will come, and you will be better than you are ~ keep on believing and doing all you can to help yourself. It's a struggle at the moment, but it can get better!