O.K. girl, trust me, i know EXACTLY where you are. And I'm not going to tell you "Oh just fart in front of him, he'll get used to it yada yada yada" b/c the truth is, for some people, its harder to just be up front about that kind of stuff. I have been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now and he has NO IDEA that I have IBS. He simply thinks I have a sensitive tummy .. but anytime I have an attack (which isnt often b/c I'm a C) he thinks it makes me throw up, not poop. Hahah for some reason, telling him that I'm puking seemed more .. acceptable, than telling him I'm pooping. He loves me very much, and would never even think about breaking up or anything like that if I told him I had IBS, but I still don't. So far, hiding it has been easier for me. If the day comes that I just can't do it anymore, then sure, he'll find out. But for right now ..
- I hold my toots when I feel em' coming, or I make up some excuse to run to the other room, or pretend I'm throwing something away so I can let it out somewhere else. - I wear longer t-shirts or jackets when I'm feeling bloated - I drink TONS of hot Fennel tea (It really does help with BOTH gas and bloating) - And last .. I look forward to bed time so I can toot my troubles away alllll night long!
I know its difficult to just come right out and talk about all of this. And I DEFINITELY know what you mean about not wanting to fess up to the "bowel issues" of IBS. But like I said, I just say it makes me throw up. And yeah, I'm being dishonest, and yeah, relationships are built on trust and honesty and all that good stuff ... but, I'm sorry, I'm just not comfortable enough with all of that stuff to spill the beans quite yet. And you don't have to be either!! Do what you are ready to do.
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