Whaaaa -- I need some Living Room love
#75026 - 05/31/04 03:45 PM
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Hi everyone,
Sorry I've been absent the last few days. I am so stressed out! I am getting my apartment ready for my subletter to come on Wednesday. My mom came here on Friday and we cleaned and organized all day, so it's mostly in good shape. Then I went home for a few days, with my brother and his pregnant wife. She was super touchy the whole weekend, but I guess that is pretty normal. My brother was fine until the drive back to the city. The whole way, my SIL was sleeping in the back seat, and he was just reaming me out about anythind and everything. We never fight, so I am really just not used to it. He just kept on picking picking picking at everything. When he dropped me at the train (he lives just outside the city) I got out of the car without even saying bye. Now I'm annoyed at him and at myself. I managed to get home before I started crying, thankfully. Anyway of course now my tummy is killing me. And then there is the other thing ... I have a sigmoidoscopy tomorrow morning and I am absolutely dreading it. I'm happy I managed to stay relatively stable at my parents' house, even with a couple of cheats, but now I'm in so much pain and I know it's just stress. All I want to do is call my bf and cry to him, but of course he lives in stupid London and is already asleep. Ughhhh. I am leaving on Thursday for a summer camp reunion, which should be lots of fun, but I am slightly freaking out becasue it involves an 8-hour drive (I'll be a passenger), and staying in cabins with a bunch of other people. No bathroom privacy. Plus, cafeteria-stlye meals means I'm going to be pretty limited in my options. Saturday night there is a big banquet, but I'm not even really looking forward to that because I'm sure my food options will be even more limited. At least my boyfriend will be there (yes, we met at summer camp, and yes, I know exactly how cheesy that is), and he always makes me feel better. I'm just nervous about that too because we've been fighting a lot lately, just stupid long-distance frustration stuff, and I feel like there is a lot of pressure on this weekend. Then, we are both going up to visit his parents in Cape Cod. That should be very relaxing, so I'm not too nervous about that. His family is great and with a house on the water, everything always seems calm. After the cape, I'm going home to my parents' house for a week, and then I leave for London on June 20. I've been trying to get an earlier flight, but there are so many stupid restrictons on frequent flier miles, so I am basically stuck. I just have to keep calling every day.
Maybe I'm freaking out over nothing, but it just seems like when it rains, it pours! Oh plus, normally in these situations I'd call my best friend, but she just stupidly got back together with a guy who makes her miserable, so I really cant' stomach a conversation right now. Whhhhaaaaa. I guess I just wanted to whine to some sympathetic people.
Usually when I'm stressed I do a million different things and make a huge mess of my apartment, but now I have to be all neat and careful to get ready for the subletter.
Does anyone have any good relaxation techniques, other than eating and crying into my pillow? I hate when I feel like this -- constantly on the brink of tears when nothing tragic has happened. I feel like such a freak. Oh AND I just finished a fantastic book, which is normally a good thing but now I'm depressed and I miss the characters. I guess I should just jump into another book, but somehow it feels like a relationship is over and I'm not ready to give myself to the next one. Am I totally nuts, or what? Don't answer that.
Hmmm .... maybe I should make ADB's. My mom and I finally got my oven working (It's been broken for the entire 9 months I've lived here).
Anyway really I'm just looking for some living room love, so bring it on, please!!! 
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Amanda
I live in the Big Apple, but I don't eat the skin
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Awww Amanda,
As if your other problems weren't enough to deal with, you've got your tummy to worry about too!
My suggestion for destressing would be to take a nice hot bubble bath and get yourself some (trashy) magazines to read that could take your mind of your troubles for the moment! Try to take it one day at a time, cos as much as you want to keep organized and are stressing over what needs to be done, its only going to make things worse. Deal with tomorrow when its here. Hope u feel better 
*Hugs and lotsa living room luv*
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You poor thing! You need a night to make yourself feel better - pamper yourself! Take a bath, watch girlie movies, paint your nails....
Feel better!! HUGS!
~Cara
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Hi Amanda,
This post is probably far too late - damn time difference - but I hope everything goes well for you tomorrow. I don't know if this helps, but when I'm stressed I go for a walk and look at the trees, etc. (In the day time of course). Brothers can be a pain, but try to remember that it's his problem, not yours. His anger, not yours.
Remember you are caring and sweet, so care for yourself with that bath, etc, previously mentioned and don't forget the immodium for that car ride and you'll be fine. Also stock up on Bev's equalactin, which we can't seem to get here. In fact put a call out for Bevrs who always is so warm, caring and practical in the best way. See yourself through her eyes and your stresses will fall away.
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YOWZA! Girlfriend, do you ever have a LOT going on in your life right now! Holy Cow!
Bevp is a love. Bless her heart. She's right about the Equalactin. You need to get out to WalMart Pharmacy and get yourself some. It's a Godsend!
The worst attack I ever had was totally stress-induced. I had two parties to go to on the same weekend, and they were all-day parties, with the boss and his family, office people and their relatives, etc., and I just didn't wanna go. I got myself SOOOO worked up over those damn parties, I had cramps and Big D all weekend, during the parties. It wasn't until just before the second party was over that I could feel my tummy totally start to relax. It was incredible; as I was standing there, talking to an office acquaintance, I felt the cramps roll down my body, through my legs and out my feet. It was amazing!
I think Equalactin would have helped me, had I known about it then, and I'm sure it'll help you now.
You need to deal with the stress. Exercise is always the key for me. Find something you enjoy -- maybe swimming? Aerobics? Running?
Bevp is also right about your bro. It's HIS problem, not yours. I'd just let the issue die down. Give him some space, leave him and his wife alone for awhile. Something tells me you were a punching bag when he really needed it, thanks to his hormone-crazed pregnant wife, despite the fact that you may have been totally innocent. Regardless, let him think about it and realize how unfair he was to you. Give him time.
Amanda, do you always take on so much at once like this? You might want to re-think your social life. It's very exciting, and you're very young, so it's great if you can do it -- but it's also very stressful, and tough on the tummy when you have IBS.
Flying to London? WOW! You'll have to stop and visit our Linzy.
I'm just like you when it comes to good books. I get all involved in the characters, and I miss them when the book is finished. When I was in the third grade, I read all the Trixie Belden mystery books, and after finishing the last one, I cried my eyes out, then wrote a letter to the author, begging her to write more. She never did. How rude!
{{{{{{Hugs}}}}}}
Bev
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Amanda, pretty lady, wow, what an annoying time you've been going through. Here's a big {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
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Laura
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Amanda, I know it is too late, I also am saying a prayer for you and your procedure.
As for the brother thing, I know exactly what you are talking about. My brother has made a huge mess of his life, he and his wife are trying to put things back together. Though he is 8 yrs younger than I, he has never ever been hard on me, about anything. THings have changed,I saw him twice last weekend, he would not let up on me.....it was all small stuff, but I was stunned that he would behave that way. Truth is, it is all his problem, so as it is with your brother. Give him some time, take care of yourself.
Whoa girl, I remember my social calender being that packed, just remember if you dont take care of yourself no one will (except you do seem to have a great mom, just like mine).
As for the reading, I also miss the characters. I find it best to move on in to another book. Wouldnt it be just like Bev to write the author and demand more books??? I find that hilarious!!!
have a great time in spite of your IBS, gayla
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Thanks for all your advice and love, ladies! It really made me feel better. Last night I made my favorite I-hate-life dinner -- Sardines with rice and lentils. I know I am so weird but sardines are yummy and they remind me of Venice.
Well I got up this morning and did the horrible enemas to prepare for the sigmoidoscopy. How awful! Who wants voluntary D??? I just kept on telling my tummy how sorry I was. Well I got to the doctor, and he told me that they are upgrading the equipment, and the new stuff was supposed to be in by now, but it's not. SO, no test. Can you believe that?!!! I am so annoyed. Plus I had to skip breakfast so now my tummy is all kinds of messed up. Time for a bagel.
Anyway, thanks for all the love. I hope everyone is having a good day!
Amanda
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Amanda
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Hey,
Poor you!! I can't believe you did all the prep for the test, and went out there to do it and it was cancelled! I feel so bad for you, I would be so upset.
I just read the first part of your post, and I'm sorry you've been having such a rough time. I hope you managed to find some stuff to make you feel better - if sardines work for you, go for it!!.. though I won't be joining you.. 
--Steph
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~~I'm not crazy, I'm just a little unwell-I know right now you can't tell~~Matchbox 20
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Oh you poor girl... dealing with all of that...my goodness. Can you take tonight and just relax? Put on your PJ's and slipers....sip some tea and curl up with a hot water bottle....
{{HUGS}}
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Amanda! They couldn't do the test!! That's unbelievable!! They should have called!! ARGGHHHHH!!!!
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Laura
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OMG Amanda,
It sounds like you are having a rough enough time of it as it is and then to prep for the test and have it cancelled  ....I can't even imagine how that must feel. I am so sorry you had to go through that and I think you definitely need a "lot" of living room love. Here is mine.
BUNCHES & BUNCHES OF  LOVE
As for the sardines and lentils....sorry...but...yuck!!!! 
Hope tomorrow is a better day
Barbie
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Awww thanks for all the love. It really helps. Plus I just had a really fun/good thing happen. I am going to a summer camp reunion this weekend, and there is a black-tie optional banquet. I was trying to decide what to wear, and I uncovered a dress I bought 6 months ago and forgot all about! And, not to toot my own horn, but it looks really good! I am so excited. My bf is going to be there too, and I haven't seen him in a month now, so I am happy that I'll be looking my best!
See, life has a way of turning up again.
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Amanda
I live in the Big Apple, but I don't eat the skin
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I can't believe they let you go through the whole sigmoidoscopy prep AND come all the way into the office before telling you they couldn't do the test. Grrrr. I would have embarrassed myself by making a big scene.
So what book was it that you loved so much that you grieved when it was over? I've had that feeling too!
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Hi,
So sorry about all the problems that have been going on in your life! one great thing to look forward to is seeing your man!! woohoo.. I just had to leave mine
I'm sure you'll have a great time at your camp reunion, and I'm happy things are looking better for you!
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LoL. I agree!! when my husband eats sardines I have to leave the room!
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~Cara~
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Well I would have made a big scene too, except at some point this man is going to have to stick the scope in my rear end, and I'd like him to be as gentle as possible! The book was The Thorn Birds. I actually started it almost a year ago, but then the first year of law school happened, and pleasure reading went out the window! I was so glad to pick it up again at the end of the year, and I finished it very quickly. It was so good. I just think the "separation" has been extra painful because the characters have been on my mind all year. Anyway my dad has the film on tape so I'll watch it when I home for a visit.
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Amanda
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Amanda thats a good point you make about the doctor at some point having to perform the test. LOL. Yikes! I still feel bad for you though, did you get it resheduled?
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Hey! I'm so glad you made it home in one piece, physically and emotionally. I am SO PISSED about your pants. I'd probably still be crying. Are they new and still available in the stores, or old favorites? Can you start a new trend and paint some more stuff on them, and tell everyone you got them in Italy? Haha sorry that's totally something my mother would say...
I am really proud of you for leaving without crying in front of him. I have about zero control over my own waterworks, so I find that very impressive. I'm sure this summer is going to be a period of a lot of growth and change for you and for the relationship, even if it doesn't go the way you want it to.
This is kind of a random personal question, but who are the supportive women in your life? I have no sisters, but I am incredibly close with my girl cousins (actually I am getting close to my sisters-in-law, but my cousins and I really grew up like sisters). Two years ago, when a relationship I was in was falling apart in front of my face, and I was desperately trying to hold on to it, my two older cousins and I sat up all night and had a huge yelling cryfest. They really sat me down and told me in plain English that this boy was clearly not in love with me; that I was disrespecting myself; that I deserved to be with someone who loved me back; that that person existed somewhere. I am by no means comparing my ex to Vinnie, or my situation to yours. I'm just wondering if you have people in your life who can see things objectively but are protective of you. I hated how over-protective my brothers and all my cousins (there are so many) were all my life, but now I am so thankful that I have the kind of relationships that can't be destroyed by saying things that are hard to say. Is your relationship with your sister like that? Just curious.
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Amanda
I live in the Big Apple, but I don't eat the skin
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I would just be furious that I had to go through the whole prep mess and then they don't do it. That is just unforgiveable. I'm so sorry. 
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Oh lord, that happened to me this year as well. Not with an enema, but a 24 ph test. Doctors are SO inconsiderate!!!! I'm sorry you're having such a rough week!
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That is one my very most favorite movies in the world. What a love story! Have to watch it every couple of years. I bought the book too and somehow lost it. I know what you mean about missing the characters. You so enjoy the reading and can't put it down, then when it is over you miss them.
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I LOVED the Thorn Birds. And I haven't seen the movie but Richard Chamberlain is just perfect casting IMHO.
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Laura
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