To those thinking of leaving
#355798 - 02/14/10 09:59 PM
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hawkeye
Reged: 06/16/03
Posts: 705
Loc: NYC
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I was just awakened by my screaming neighbors and now I can't get back to sleep because I'm feeling queasy and anxious. I miss the days on this board when I knew I could post something like this and find a friend on the board in the middle of the night - or at least knew I'd wake up to msgs from concerned friends.
There have been many of you who posted deeply personal things on this board including in response to my posts, which have helped me immensely. Also, the humor of many on the boards has kept me going.
Now with the recent drama on this board so many of the people whose input I've valued are saying they're going to leave. I've been here much less myself. I've been on this board (though largely as a "lurker") since it began, and this certainly isn't the first time there have been squabbles and conflicts.
my thought is that we all might take the advice that many others have given. IGNORE posts from people who are bringing you down! We can try to work it out and show people why their behavior is hurtful. THere have been some admirable posts recently in that regard. But if they're not getting anywhere, after a certain point, why not just ignore posters who bring your blood pressure up. We can co-exist relatively peacefully on this board like in real life. I don't expect to like or to want to converse with everyone who lives in my building, my neighborhood, works at my job etc. There are certain people who I just am happier to let walk by without engaging them in conversation. This is not an attack on any one person - I'd be fine if everyone reading this email tries practicing this. Also the truth is, I"m pretty sure people have practiced this technique with me and I'm fine with that! For a while I really used this board to vent, and my posts were very similar for months and months with no real growth or change shown on my part. I know some people simply stopped responding, and others expressed support. That was actually ok with me. I needed a place to air those feelings, for a time and I understood why some people dropped off from commenting.
Ok, so I think you all are stuck with me a while longer!!! - my two cents. I'm open to all comments, but for those fanning the flames - don't be surprised if I don't respond!
-------------------- Ladies & gentlemen take my advice, pull down your pants and slide on the ice.
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Great post, Hawkeye, and great advice.
I hope the rest of your night is peaceful.
-------------------- [Research tells us fourteen out of any ten individuals likes chocolate. - Sandra Boynton]
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Thanks Sand,
I've been up an hour now - my gut is calming down a little, but I show no signs of falling back asleep. hopefully soon!
-------------------- Ladies & gentlemen take my advice, pull down your pants and slide on the ice.
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I'm off to bed and - I hope - to sleep.
Take care.
-------------------- [Research tells us fourteen out of any ten individuals likes chocolate. - Sandra Boynton]
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My youngest son just dropped by with work and friend problems … I am grateful that he comes home to talk.
Thank you for the post. Your two cents make me rich.
It's nice to be stuck with you.
-------------------- Courage doesn’t always roar. Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, “I will try again tomorrow”. Mary Anne Radmacher
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-------------------- Ladies & gentlemen take my advice, pull down your pants and slide on the ice.
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Hope you've all slept
#355812 - 02/15/10 07:28 AM
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Toady
Reged: 04/06/06
Posts: 1299
Loc: A small city, Northwestern Ontario, Canada
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Wonderful post Hawk. While I don't anticipate leaving I go through periods of lurking vs posting. I'll continue to hang out. And if I don't like a post I do ignore it.
I was able to sleep and hour here and there last night but I was awake at least a dozen times. Blah! All this and insomnia too!
I'm happy to say I have found good friends here on the board and I would miss them if they were gone for good.
-------------------- Cassandra
Live like there's no tomorrow. Love like you've never loved before.
IBS A 20+ years, Chronic Migraines, Chiari Malformation (decompressed June 22, 2010), Brachial Neuritis, and ??? the list just keeps growing, but I'm still shiny side up!
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I finally went to bed about 3:15. I should have gotten on line and we could have all chatted.
Here's to a better nights sleep tonight!
-------------------- Janey
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Hawkeye
#355851 - 02/15/10 04:05 PM
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Janey
Reged: 10/25/03
Posts: 1716
Loc: Maryland
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I am sorry that you were awaken by your neighbors last night. I hate when that happens. The nights where I sleep a little and something wakes me up usually end up being the worst nights sleep. It is almost like I have had a power nap and then my mind won't shut down so I can go back to sleep.
I feel if we all work hard we can bring the boards back to the way they should be.
Take care and I hope you sleep tonight!
-------------------- Janey
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Great post, Hawkeye. I was just thinking to myself that these boards have changed SO much in the last few years. I hate to say it, but I'm grateful I started when I did, and got the support I needed when I needed it. The energy on these boards these days.... oy. I miss the old days. I guess that's why I tend to hang out in the Living Room more and more. I'm glad you are sticking around, I always enjoy your posts!!
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Lisa, IBS-C (Vegan)
Stable since July 2007!
Mommy to Rhiannon Marie (Dec. 13, 2008)
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