Re: question
#303695 - 04/01/07 03:41 AM
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Mary_V
Reged: 05/09/06
Posts: 544
Loc: Grandville, MI
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DH = dear husband
DW = dear wife
DS = dear son
DD = dear daughter
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~Mary
Had surgery for rectal prolapse in Sept. '06 and feeling good now! Loving life with our IVF miracle #1.
 
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I'm a pretty difficult person to offend. 
Thanks for the suggestion! I do know that sometimes reading racey novels can help....!
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Lisa, IBS-C (Vegan)
Stable since July 2007!
Mommy to Rhiannon Marie (Dec. 13, 2008)
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Never heard of this... Do you have to take it regularly for it to work? Any side effects that you know of? Is this something I could ask a doctor or pharmacist about?
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Lisa, IBS-C (Vegan)
Stable since July 2007!
Mommy to Rhiannon Marie (Dec. 13, 2008)
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I am glad to know others feel this way when the IBS gets a going. Last night my DH wanted sex and I just groaned, which he then understands that this may not be a very good time to be asking. He is very understanding and because of this I usually give in to him. It may not be at all comfortable for me and I definately do not feel sexy but he is very patient and understanding, so this is how I deal with it.
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Before I was stable, I was extremely hesitant about having sex because I was afraid of it causing D right during the middle of everything. However, now that I'm stable and don't have to worry about D anymore I am more able to say yes without fear. The one thing that still holds me back (other than the slow libido that seemed to arrive around the same time as my IBS peaked) is worrying about having gas. I just try to avoid gassy foods if I think he might be in the mood that evening so I don't have to worry about it quite so much.
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Chickey, I understand completly.. Before I was stable I was a D with alot of pain.. My fiance completly understands because he has his moments (mostly after mass amounts of hot sauce )where he makes himself sick and isn't really interested in sex for that night.
As for lack of drive, I understand where you are comming from.. my fiance and I work damn near opposite shifts so sometimes it gets to the point where if we don't do it on say sunday @ 1pm then it isn't going to happen for another week or more and that kinda takes the fun out of it. It also puts alot of pressure on it..
As for ways to get in the mood.. I fully admit to it, I'm a gal that enjoys watching porn.. I got to pick one out for my bday this last year and it was the best thing I could have purchased.. I also find that having a hot bubble bath and doing whatever it is that you have to do to feel really relaxed is a plus AND if you can convince your DH to purchase an erotic massage book.. It's a good thing.. If I need help to relax I sometimes get a massage and the book teaches all the little pressure points..
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You guys are great.  I never expected so many open and honest responses to my post. It makes me feel SO much better knowing I'm not alone in this one! You guys have some great suggestions, too! I think I need to get over my insecurities (I'm not very "adventurous" when it comes to sex) and try some new things!
Thanks, ladies!
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Lisa, IBS-C (Vegan)
Stable since July 2007!
Mommy to Rhiannon Marie (Dec. 13, 2008)
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Hi everybody i'm a new member to this web site.I have been treated with this problem for one year now. I sometimes feel guility when i have to turn down my boyfriend when he wants to have sex. I get my symptons every couple of months.
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