My Godfather has passed...
#260328 - 04/27/06 06:07 AM
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TommyNY
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He passed away this morning around 4am. I feel really badly. I did not call since my aunt since he had been sent back from the hospital. I feel EXTREMELY awkward in those situations, like I may say something wrong. It is just difficult for me. Now I feel overly guilty for not calling while he was alive.
Anyway, it looks like they may bury him in NY because he wanted to be buried in a military cemetary. Apparently the military cemetary in FL is about 4 hours form where my aunt lives. So it seems as if she will bury him up here in NY out on LI.
Please pray for my aunt and her family or keep them in your thoughts. Thanks.
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I'm sorry to hear this, Tommy. Your family is in my thoughts.
Please don't feel guilty for not calling. Everyone deals with these situations in different ways. When my grandmother passed away, I didn't want to be around the rest of my family because it was too awkward. No one seemed to understand that at the time, but it was my way of dealing with it...
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Michelle
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Sweetie, don't feel guilty. It seems like he wouldn't have been able to come to the phone. He was probably pretty out of it and not coherent. Plus, we both talked to your aunt at your parents not too long ago. I'm sure that counts for something.
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Tommy
#260332 - 04/27/06 06:16 AM
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I am so sorry...you know, I used to feel the way you do. A little awkward and unsure of what to say. Please forgive yourself for that, for me that didn't change until I was in my late 30's as more and more people I knew fell ill and passed away.
One thing I learned from my friend was to not be afraid of speaking of the person who is ill or has passed away. Sharing funny memories...loving memories...and such always bring comfort to those of us left behind.
Now...make sure you contact your aunt on a regular basis, be willing to listen as she grieves and dare to grieve with her.
I hope this helps you...know that I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Have a blessed day! Rachel
Formerly poochibelly...
I have IBS but it doesn't have me!
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So sorry for your loss. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. Hang in there.
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I live in the Big Apple, but I don't eat the skin
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I'm so sorry for your loss, Tommy. I know your aunt understands that some relatives won't call when people are sick. We just don't want to bother family who's going through illness. All my best--
~nelly~
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I'm sorry Tommy. You and your family will be in my thoughts. Hugs!
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you're not the only one bad with that stuff, I am too. I never know what to say or do, and end up feeling really uncomfortable. When my uncle (who I didn't know well) was dying of cancer, my mom basically forced us to go see him, and give him a hug. He was not even aware of anything and barely looked like himself. In hindsight I'm glad I went but at the time I could barely handle it. Even now when I go to funerals I'm very uncomfortable, and I don't know why. Don't feel guilty, you're just human, and death and dying is a really tough subject for anyone.
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