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He agrees but still goes into sad mode very often. it's so hard!! 
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Just wanted to check in. Is he still sobbing away or is he much calmer? He needed this not only for YOu but for HIM. Now that he knows he has iddues maybe he will solve them and be a much better fit for his next relationship. I am glad you will not be hurt by anymore.
So what are your plans for Pamper Friday? anything fun for the weekend? Enjoy packing....every time you pack something up you are one ste closer to packing up your life and beginning anew!
I'm so EXCITED for you!!!!!!!!! Wooohoooo! 
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Formerly known as Ruchie
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Tina,
Living with him must be so hard! When I broke up with my boyfriend, I moved back to my parents house, but he would call me and cry every day. It was so hard, because like you, I am super sensitive, and felt so bad. I knew deep down it was for the best, but there were times that I wanted to take him back because I felt so bad for him. It is hard to make someone that you love so upset, but I had to keep telling myself that I knew we were not meant to be together. Hang in there, it does get easier. And yes, I moved on to find Mr. Right, and I am sure you will too.
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I haven't seen him today. YAY to that! Lots of email though. BOO to that! I was at work all day and he's out for a while tonight.
I just got off the phone with my mom. I fianlly told her that I broke up with him. She is in shock and made me feel like I just gave away a million dollars. She kept asking me how on earth I can afford to live alone. And what would I furnish my place with? Needles to say, I didn't ask her for any financial help as she would have said no.
She's NEVER given me support in anything I've ever done. When I started school for graphics she frowned and told me that it would be a huge waste of money. Same with when I went to school for social work. They only support things that are their ideas or something.  My dad's just as bad.
I feel 100% confident about my decision and now she has me feeling like I just killed someone. Why does she always do that to me???
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Oh mom's just worry I think! I know it's a horrible way of showing it but I'm sure she's just very sad for you and will worry now that you'll be on your own! She'll get over it. Ughhh does she not think that this was something that you've thought and planned out? Why would you do it if you couldn't afford it? Yes, whatever it takes, don't ask her for any financial support (even though you said she won't give you any). That's the last thing you need is for her to say, told ya so!
Hang in there, you have one more month to go? Whatever you do, stick by your decision. It must be hard to have to still live with him. I'm glad that he's agreed though that it's better for you both.
Here's to the new life!!!!!!
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~~~Lisa~~~
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I know she's just shocked and upset. But it's my life and she should let me make my own decisions. he never even liked my parents. I should tell her that!
I didn't ask her for money. She would never offer and I am not going to beg. I just found out that I am getting a raise at work and will make and extra 8.5% more money. YAY! I didn't tell her that as she didn't even give me a chance. She couldn't get off the phone soon enough!
It's hard enough as it is, I really don't need this extra guilt right now.
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Stand Firm, SS!
#154243 - 02/25/05 04:24 PM
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I was born in 1944. I was raised with two brothers, and times were VERY different back then: boys went to college, girls learned how to keep homes for those boys when they graduated. I wanted to go to college, but my parents, while telling me they couldn't afford it, sent both my brothers. My older brother went to Brown, then Stanford; my younger brother went to Oklahoma -- for TEN YEARS! Meanwhile, I lived at home, got a job, and PAID RENT to my parents!
Thankfully, times have changed. I was born too young -- and to the wrong parents.
SS, you stand firm on what you want in this life, because if you don't, no one is gonna stand up FOR you! I made my way ON MY OWN, with absolutely no help whatsoever from my parents, and I'm damn proud of it. When I got married, they couldn't even give me away, their only daughter! I gave myself my wedding. I'm proud of that too, and ashamed of my parents.
My younger brother, who was doted on and given more college than he ever wanted, at age 56, is still fumbling through life. On the other hand, I have done quite well, supporting myself and being a responsible person. I'm better off now than my parents or brothers ever were.
SS, like you, I'm 100% confident about your decision. It's the right one, because it's for YOU, what YOU want, not what someone else tells you you want. You don't need their support; believe me, if I can make it on my own, YOU CAN TOO. Trust me, I know what I'm talking about here.
YOU GO, GIRL!
Bevvy
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Oh man, that's so awful of your mom to act that way with you. At least you can rest assured knowing that you definitely made the right decision. You are also going to be quite fine on your own and she should shutup when she sees that.
Big hugs and glad to hear that life is better!! 
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Sorry you're having a hard time with your mum right now. I'm sure she doesn't mean to be unsupportive, maybe what she wants to say was coming out the wrong way (or maybe not, obviously I don't know her so I can't judge). Big hugs. I'm sure in the future she'll see how happy you are and know that you made the right decision for you. What's right for you isn't always right for your parents.
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I agree 100%, though my life story is totally different. I was raised to take care of the men in the house, until the women rights movement came along and my mama got liberated!
Yeah !!!!!!
Anyway, at 48, I wish I had stood up to my dad, when my children were young and I wanted to go back to school. He laughed at me, told me I would never make it. I listened to him......what a mistake I made by doing that! I love my life, I have been blessed abundantly, mostly I have no regrets, except for listening to him............
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