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My b-friend is pretty understanding. My stomach hardly ever hurts now that I'm on meds. But because of the meds, I'm not really in the mood to have sex. I'm taking another med to help with that. It looks like it's working. But I just started, so we'll see in the next few weeks. I would follow the advice already given about finding other pleasures like Bev & Michelle & other have suggested.
Maybe he should go with you to your next doctor's visit, so he can hear it from the doctor. That way he doesn't think it's just that you don't want to. Maybe he needs to be more informed on IBS. Anyways good luck!
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I know it is frustrating, but he is just going to have to understand and if he is the one, he will. Good luck! Don't feel bad, it's not your fault, he'll understand...
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Yeah, I guess I'll try to make more of an effort when I'm not in pain/uncomfortable. The problem is that he usually wants to in the evening, which is when the IBS bothers me the most. Perhaps I'll also try other times of the day, or to eat light dinners when he's over, maybe that will help too. Usually he's very understanding with things, but he just gets frustrated from lack of sex 
Chela- what meds are you taking to up your sex drive? I could use some of that, my sex drive is pretty low.
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Cool advice! My HTB went through a stage getting very frustrated about this, but now he's come to terms with the fact that he can't just jump me - I need to be REALLY turned on. Plus, when I do feel better, I make sure I jump him, even if I'm a bit tired!
Can I suggest...
Stick on hot pads for use during sex (if you can cope with looking ridiculous!  ) - you can get them from drugstores, they're usually for muscle cramps, period pain, etc.
KY Jelly to counteract all those drying meds!
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I'm currently on Lexapro for my IBC.
My doctor gave me Wellbutrin XL,which is another antidepressant. But I guess one of the side affects is an increase in libido. It works for some people and others it won't. I guess it takes about one month to see if it will work for you.
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awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww punkin,
sorry to hear that.
A couple thoughts.
One, you said he feels bad and thinks you don't like him. You both have to get your hands around the idea that this is perfectly totally normal response on the part of a guy. That's part of their charm and part of their curse too. Your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to convey to him that that is not so.
You say he "feels guilty to ask" and that's also perfectly normal classic guy response. Try this: show him how to maybe get there without asking. If he made you a warm bath and put fresh flowers and a couple candles in the bathroom and then took you to bed with a top-to-toe lavender lotion treatment and a nice cup of jasmine tea and a backrub, might you not invite him into bed for a backrub or something? Which may or may not turn into sex but could also be way fun?
You say he assumes you'll say you can't. Try surprising him when you do feel like it.
You feel like he doesn't understand. He doesn't. He can't. He's a guy. What you both have to do is meet in the middle now and then, or at the outer edges. Make sense?
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