I'm back ....but having some frustrating times.
#5014 - 04/03/03 12:54 PM
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Nugget
Reged: 02/10/03
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Hello everyone....
I'm sorry I haven't been in here for a while. Things have been kind of hectic since my grandfather's passing when I was last here. We made the trip to his funeral just fine. Glad we left the night before after work because the following morning the roads were closed due to a big snowstorm. Some of our family and friends weren't able to make it because of the storm. Had a good trip in spite of the circumstances and had a nice visit with the family and friends who were able to make it. By Friday, (the day after the funeral) all the roads were open and we were able to make it home and relax the rest of the weekend.
Things here at work are kind of up-side-down right now which has me extremely frustrated and mad and in turn has my IBS kind of a wreck on top of being that time of the month...and a rough one at that. You see...the GM here has been doing some things that are totally uncalled for and getting away with it for quite some time. Now there have been enough complaints that the owner decided to dismiss him as GM....which would be great if it were actually taking place. But, the owner can't decide what other duties to give this guy so he told him to go about his duties as usual until something else is figured out! Well that has all of us employees furious because this guy should be sent down the road. He does absolutely nothing and gets paid the most. Plus he has been caught viewing pornography on his computer in his office, taking naps at his desk (supposedly on his lunch hour), etc., etc., etc. Company moral is in the toilet basically. .....enough rambling about that.
I hate to keep "complaining" in this post....but one other thing that has me upset right now is my husband has been getting everything organized to get a shop building built next to our house...scheduling contractors, getting things arranged with the bank, etc., etc. Well, today they are supposed to start "breaking ground". Lately my husband has been working over-time to build up some extra "funds" so that we can get this building paid for quicker. I work a full-time job, too. I understand why my husband is putting in so many hours, but I don't like to see him have to work so hard...and I have told him this. If I remember right, he told me that once construction started he wouldn't be putting in so many hours so that he could keep an eye on the "crew". Well, now last night he informed me that he would still be putting in long hours even though construction is starting. That upset me because I feel that I will be there after work while these guys are still working til dark. My concern is that certain questions/concerns may arise during the construction that I do not have the knowledge to handle. And he wouldn't be home til after dark when the construction crew is gone for the day. Does that make sense? I'm just so frustrated about it!
Anyway....thanks for listening. I hope this makes sense.
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Nugget,
I'm SO GLAD the funeral was a good experience--considering the circumstances!  I'm VERY sorry to hear about work, your IBS flaring up, and your sit. at home with the construction.  Insofar as work--YUCK! That guy should DEF be history! On the home front--that's tough! We all love our husbands SO MUCH and we want them to be happy--but we need to take care of ourselves (which will make our husbands happy in the longrun)!!! I'm sre you told him how important he is to you, how much the groundbreaking/building means to you, and how much you live him-so I guess the next step is to help him understand your concerns. Maybe he can leave notes for the builders--or he can speak to them and ask them to call your husband at work (it really depends on what your husband does for a living)...I'm sure that if you tell your husband your concerns--two intelligent loving people can find some way to make this work! In any case, PLEASE take care of yourself--and communicate with your man! Very important stuff (just my opinion!) and I hope you'll let us know how everything works out. Good luck!!!!!!! *hugs*
Ruchie
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Formerly known as Ruchie
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It sounds like you've got a lot on your plate at the moment which no doubt is an invitation for IBS to annoy you further. Don't you hate that - it never rains, it pours!
Anyway, try and take as much "me" time as you can to walk, relax, meditate, do yoga or whatever you like doing to unwind. I know it won't be a miracle cure but I always find that if I get that "me" time it helps me cope with all the rest.
Kerrie 
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What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us.
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I understand how when you work situation and then home stress can cause your IBS problems.
I have a terrible time when work goes awful. Because you spend your entire day there and you want it to be enjoyable to help the day go by. Maybe you should all go speak with the owner and see what the heck he is doing. Maybe the owner is scared that he won't be able to find someone to replace the GM. I know that's why alot of companies keep around people - is because it's too much work to replace them. Maybe someone knows a person to replace him - offer that to the manager. Give him an open door to get rid of this guy.
Please don't stress about the construction crew asking you questions you won't know the answer to.... just do the best you can and tell them that your husband is the decision maker for that. My husband erects large steel buildings for a living and never expects the wives or any other individual to know about the building specs. They mostly prefer to deal with the person who "set up the deal".
Don't stress about it - my husband doesn't even put a second thought into the wives not know about it - just do the best you can and try to get ahold of your husband or take down their numbers to get their questions answered for the next morning.
Take care of yourself,
Things have got to get better.
Sometimes when I get stressed I ask myself, "Will this bother me the same amount in a year - if you answer NO then you have to move on and try to get over it. If you answer YES then you have to figure out how to fix it.
I am not saying you are being stressed out for no reason - just sometimes we get overwhelmed with stress and everything starts piling up and I would hate to see you to start getting stressed over everything.
Take care and remember we are all here for you!
Lana_Marie
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Lana_Marie
Proud Mommy to Bentley Taylor
Born May 12, 2004 9lbs, 3oz
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