what should I do
#303456 - 03/29/07 05:15 AM
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My cousin is getting married in june. She wants me to spend the night the day before the wedding. I told her i'd be happy to bring my own food. She said "No I'll make you something but I don't know what." She said "Fruit will be there" I Said "no" then said why. She said "fruit makes you regular." Then I explained to her I hardly eat any fruit. Well she continued to ask about pork chops,hamburger, lots of stuff I couldn't eat. I just said no to all those things and said why I couldn't eat that. I said lots of carb food, i eat lots of rice. She said wheat noodles are good,i said no I can't eat those.Do any of you Ibs-c eat wheat noodles? So it sound like i'll be living off some rice for 2 days...Even though she said she'd cook for me, I'm still going to bring my own food..At the wedding reception too. The thing is I don't want to make her feel bad and I really don't want to attract attention to myself at the reception..My aunt or someone will be offering me to try something..or someone wil notice I'm not eating the wedding cake..I could say my stomach hurts and I don't want to eat much at the reception. I'm going to be stressed out too because I really don't like my grandpa, he's not a good man, neither is my aunt, she took care of me for about 10 years and it was hell becaue I was always treated like [censored] and i'd only crap once a week and always plug the toiltet and she got mad at me..maybe by some miracle i'd get the flue or something..My cousin said I can drink at her house, I really wanted to so I said cool. I know from my family they'll be telling me how fruit and vegtables are good and what i should eat, then i'll give them my ibs explanation why, my family will just look at me funny when i tell them or its in my head or something..
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Why don't you eat fruits & vegetables? I am IBS-C and the only way I was able to come off the Miralax was to incorporate enough fruits & vegetables along with the SF to get things moving. Any way that doesn't answer your question.
You don't have to explain anything to anyone. It is your body and only you know how eating the wrong things make you feel. Don't apologize for your IBS and don't feel pressured to explain things to people who don't understand or care to understand. I take my own foods to events and no longer feel pressured to explain. Take care of yourself.
Snookie, IBS-C
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what should i say if ppl start asking me questions or tell me what to do? does acacia work for you?
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Re: thank you
#303463 - 03/29/07 07:05 AM
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Loc: Jasper, GA
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This is what I finally said after having my family and friends try to argue with me about my diet. "I am on a specialized diet to control my IBS. I know what I can eat and what I can't eat". When people tried to continue with the arguement, I just said, "When you have walked a mile in my shoes, then you can give me all the advise you want. Until then, please respect my decisions and accept me for me"
It may sound harsh; but until you take a stand regarding your own health, others will continue to tell you what to do.
Snookie, IBS-C
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PS: The acacia does work for me, but I have to get enough fruits and vegetables to keep things moving cushioning them with SF such as pasta, rice, or potatoes. And don't forget excercise - very important.
Snookie, IBS-C
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weddings are the worst! especially when it's someone close like that who wants you to be involved. I had to go to a wedding shortly after starting the IBS diet and it COMPLETELY stressed me out and I ended up having an attack. Not fun. In situations like that, I often just tell people that I have food allergies and prefer to bring my own food. I think people who don't understand will take "food allergies" more seriously than "IBS". See if you can get a vegetarian, dairy-free meal at the reception (I tell waiters that I have a dairy allergy), and fill up on the white bread! Take lots and lots of tea bags with you and make your own tea. I ALWAYS take tea bags to restaurants and ask for a cup of hot water.
We all know how difficult it is to make family and friends understand what we're going through, and how eating seemingly healthy foods (fruits and veggies) doesn't work for us unless we do it a certain way. You know how different foods make you feel; stand up for yourself! And above all, enjoy the wedding! 
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Lisa, IBS-C (Vegan)
Stable since July 2007!
Mommy to Rhiannon Marie (Dec. 13, 2008)
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that sounds really good. The thing is most everyone in my family knows i have problems,i don't know who doesn't know, so maybe i'd say "I'm really sensitive to foods so I always make my own" or if its a waiter or someone I dont' know i;ll say "food allergies" maybe not, maybe just the sensitive one.
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yes, i need to exercise more... I find myself taking a few days to clean my room when it should take an hour or 2-I stare at stuff and pick a piece of garbage up every few minuets then in like 2 days i get to folding clothes. Then its messy in about a week. I need to get over that real fast so I can start exercising. I often find myself dreaming of having a hot body and going to the bathroom more while I binge eat or do nothing. Are any of you Ibs ppl like this? I could take fennel capsules with me to the wedding? I have no idea what brand or where to buy online though.
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Can I take benefiber with acacia or just the acacia?
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I know some here, including me, use Flylady to get their house in order. I too had no energy and didnt know how to get my house clean and it took forever.. Now it takes no time at all.
Try it, maybe it will work for you too.
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