I am in big trouble and realy upset
#107749 - 09/23/04 04:13 AM
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heather7476
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My daughter's field trip is today. We are going to an apple orchard, and taking a hay ride. i have been looking forward to this so much. I can't go. I am trying to find someone else to take her. It is 7:00am here and I have had to RUN for the bathroom 3 times already. I have no warning or much time to make it. It is all water  I can't be trapped on a hayride if you know what I mean. I know this is from the Antibiotics and I think taking a anti D med would just give me a bad tummy ache from not leting it out.
I ruining her life guys.  I am her mommy. We were supposed to be doing all these wonderfull things together and now they keep getting messed up. I don't know what to do. I Love her so much and I want so much for her and this isn't it. I don't want her to grow up and think of me as her sick mommy. She dosen't deserve this.
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Oh my gosh!!! Don't be so hard on yourself. Please.
You're not a bad mom at all. You just happen to have this annoying thing called IBS that strikes at often the worst possible times. I'm sure she knows how much you love her!
I hope today works out. Good luck.
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Thanks Sara
I can't find anyone else to take her. My husband can't come home from work. If I don't have any more trips to the BR I will take her. I am hoping I can talk to one of the other moms and maybe she can take kenna on the hayride and I will just wait for them. I hope to god this place has a bathroom. Or I am in big trouble. It is a 45 min drive so I am going to leave a little early so if I have to stop I won't be late. Between being sick and IBS this feild trip is going to suck for me, but I am hoping she will still have fun.
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I hope she has a good day, but you have walking pneumonia for goodness sake... she has to understand that at times people get sick... could you go to the school and see if one of the other parents will tkae her to prevent their kids getting exposed????
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We are all meeting at the apple orachard. If she were older I think she would understand but being only three she thinks I am just being mean. I am going to do what I can and thats all I can do. So far no more BR trips so I think we may go. I am just not going to eat anything till we get home.
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good plana dn good luck... or eat something that typically constipates you! I've been known to do that to even out.
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I remember those days, sometimes we just get sick and hard as it is, we just can't go. There will be another chance to make up for it, your little girl loves you and children are very forgiving. Take care honey and hope you feel better soon !
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It sucks how IBS tends to pop up at all the wrong times. I always notice that when I have nothing planned my stomach is okay and then as soon as something important comes up...I get pain.
Try and hang in there and don't be too hard on yourself...I bet you're a wonderful mother and your daughter knows that (even if she's just little)...*HUGS*
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Oh Heather you are not a bad mommy... this is out of your control.... I've read that you can't find anyone else but also no more BR trips, so that is a good sign...maybe you got it all out already. Good idea to leave early in case you need to stop....
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU!!
{{hugs}}
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I am so sorry this happened to you! I know how bad you must feel. I often feel like the worst wife in the world because I have to call things off due to my problems.
Anyway, I was wondering if Immodium helps you at all. I don't like to take it often because I figure whatever's in there needs to get out. But on days when I have important plans, it is sometimes a lifesaver. I know it doesn't work for everyone though.
I hope you got to go on the hayride and enjoy the time with your daughter.
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Thanks so much every one. Sometimes I just have the I'm a bad mommy moments. Alot more since IBS. Thanks for all your support.
Well we made it to the apple orchard.  I even did the hayride. I am feeling better only mild tummy cramps. I am just realy tired. I still don't feel the greatest and that field trip took most of my energy. When I get done on here I am hitting the couch. I also relized I am three days away from my monthly friend. Just shoot me! 
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Yeah... Heather... you made it!! Now, you go grab that heating pad or whatever you have, some tea, and go rest....I think the couch is calling you right now.....
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Re: Shell
#107933 - 09/23/04 01:28 PM
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heather7476
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Thanks Shell
I am feeling like a great mom right now. The couch is screaming for me. I wish i had a maid. My house is such a wreck. 
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Re: Shell
#107934 - 09/23/04 01:31 PM
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Shell Marr
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Your welcome Heather! 
I wish I had a maid too..... I think that should be a condition of IBS, don't ya think? hehehe
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Re: Shell
#107939 - 09/23/04 01:41 PM
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heather7476
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Yep If you have IBS you get one Maid for life. Since we are day dreaming lets add a nanny and a cook. There you go life would be so much simpler if someone else did everything for me LOL
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Re: Shell
#107942 - 09/23/04 01:53 PM
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Shell Marr
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Amen sister!!
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Heather, I haven't read the other replies so if I'm repeating something someone else said, forgive me.
I grew up with a "sick mommy". My mom had IBS (no one knew what it was then) and suffered from clinical depression. She spent one entire winter in bed with a sinus infection (I'm exaggerating of course, but not much!). Sure, there were somethings we didn't get to do. But she was also the sweetest, most fun mommy you could want. She did lots of things with us. She read to us, she sang us lullabies at night. We dyed Easter eggs. We had beautiful Christmas trees. We went to the lake to go swimming. I saw her once at our grade school. She was bringing cupcakes to my little brother's kindergarten class. I was so happy to see my "pretty mommy" there unexpectedly and went running up to her for a hug! When she was sick, we'd bring her Cokes and milk toast (when we got old enough to use the stove). And when we were sick, she'd hold our hair back while we threw up, she'd bring us gingerale floats when we had sore throats, she'd check our fever and say "poor baby."
She taught us to love, she taught us to appreciate art and music and beauty. She taught us how to be strong and gentle at the same time. She taught us that when you're sick, you can't help it, and it's okay.
Now she's 78 and I'm 51 and I love her SO MUCH. I am so proud to be her daughter. I'm teary just writing this. It absolutely does not matter that she was sick so much when we were growing up. We got what we needed. Kids are resilient. They remember things you thought were nothing and they forget things that you thought were a big deal.
So don't worry, Heather. Just love her. Nothing else matters.
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Thank you so much. I realy needed that. I am tearing up myself right now. It is so hard to be a mom. I am always worring wether I am doing a good job or not. From the moment she came home from the hospital, I started feeling like I was not good enough for her. I had gotten much better about it. But with everthing that is going on now it has reared it ugely head again.
Thank you so much for sharing that with me.
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Heather,
I am glad to hear that you got to go on the field trip. I have been very frustrated by the effect of IBS on my social life. It can be really hard. I think you should give yourself more credit as a mother. The simple fact that you are worried about the effect on your daughter of missing days like this tells me that you are a good mom. I also know that you are doing a lot of things to get better. There will be many days that you will be feeling great and able to go with your daughter to a lot of wonderful places. Just be patient and hang in there.
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Thank you for posting your experience. It's nice to know that when we can't do things because we are sick they will be fine.
Heather,
Thank you for posting. I remember feeling just like you and forcing myself to go after taking imudium. I would be so tense the entire time and try to enjoy myself at the same time. I tend to let my frustration out on the girls if they get a little crazy and then I feel worse. I have learned not tell the girls anything a head of time, if I can help it, because then if we don't go they aren't upset. I find most of the time they don't care if they stay home. They have become used to it.
I actually found myself getting nervous this morning about the baby coming. My IBS has been pretty good during this pregnancy and I have been getting used to cheating on some things. I am afraid if I don't watch it I will have a major attack and the thought of getting the girls on the bus and taking care of a baby is scaring me. I know it will all work out but you know how it is with the unknown. Oh well, one day at a time and sometimes one minute at a time.
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I know just how you feel. I also take out the frustraion on kenna and then feel terriable about it. It is nice to know I am not the only one. We are trying to have another one, and it scares me because I am also affaried of how i will feel after I have a baby and if I will be able to take care of it like I should. Your right one day at a time.
Good luck.
If you want share mommy issues feel free to email me
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Heather,
It is not your fault. These things happen to the best of us. It is completely out of your hands. Don't be so hard on yourself. I am sure someone will be able to take her and you can go on the next trip. I'm sure there will be plenty more trips to come. Feel better!
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I am glad your day turned out okay. Sometimes children understand things better than we may think. I am sure your daughter knows that you love her as well as "mommy does not always feel fine". Just love her and she will return that love.
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{BIG HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Lene
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